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Question: “Is it ever too late to put your baby up for adoption?”
Answer: No, it is never too late to place your baby for adoption.

You went back and forth about it over the nine months of your pregnancy. You changed your mind every few days — maybe every couple of hours — about whether you should give your baby up for adoption.

You felt overwhelmed by the weight of the decision until the point you gave birth, and then it was too late — or maybe that’s what you thought. Fortunately, that’s not true. You can still provide a loving, safe home for your child through a responsible adoption agency.

Adoption is Always an Option

Maybe you’re still pregnant or still in the hospital after recently given birth. Or maybe you’ve had your baby with you at home for the last few days or weeks and you still wonder if you made the right decision.

You love your baby with all your heart, but you can’t help wondering if you’re doing the right thing. Is it in your baby’s best interest to remain with you at this point in your life?

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But what can you do about it now? You didn’t make contact with an adoption agency during your pregnancy, and now the decision seems like it’s out of your hands. Your baby is here. Or soon will be here.

The good news is that you can still put your baby in the loving arms of a family better prepared to raise your baby. We know that mothers sometimes have to make very difficult decisions to give their children the best chance at a happy life. Adoption might help you give your new baby what they need.

A Loving Responsibility: Choosing What’s Best for Your Baby

You can’t lose the feeling that you’re not prepared for a new baby at this time in your life. It’s not because you don’t love your baby- you do. It’s because your heart is filled with love and you know how important it is to do the right thing for your baby.

You want the best for your baby. So do many new mothers who give up their babies for adoption because they know in their hearts that it’s the right thing to do. It’s not a question of love. In fact, giving your baby up for adoption might be the strongest expression of your love that you can show your baby.

There are many reasons new mothers like you make the decision to put their baby up for adoption. Many are concerned about the challenges before them. They don’t know how they’ll feed and clothe and shelter their baby and growing child, take care of their medical needs, surround them with a lot of supportive family, and, later, provide a good education.

Many women must raise a child without the financial or emotional support of family, friends or the child’s father. Others know that having a baby at this point in their lives will mean they won’t be able to finish their own schooling or keep an existing job. They worry that these things will only make life more difficult for them and their child. Most women who put a baby up for adoption have other kids at home and have little help from their family or the father of the baby and they often say that they worry that bringing home another baby might just be too much for everyone.

Other mothers might simply feel that they are too young to take on all of the big responsibilities required for at least the next 18 years.

You probably have at least one or maybe several of these reasons to question your ability to care for a new baby right now. That’s why you’ll be glad to know that you still have options. There are wonderful people out there who are prepared to be parents and thrilled at the prospect of adopting your baby.

How Open Arms Can Help You With Your Baby

At Open Arms Adoption, we see the joy in the faces of adoptive parents every day as they take their new babies in their arms for the first time. For many of these parents, having a baby has been their dream for years. They are more than ready financially and emotionally to care for a child and would be pleased to have an open adoption with you or a confidential adoption, if that is what you prefer.

We carefully screen each and every person who wish to adopt a child. That’s how you can trust that your baby will be placed in a stable and loving home.

If you choose to give up your baby for adoption, it will be one of the most difficult decisions you’ll ever make. You should take your time to make this decision and you should never feel pressured by an adoption agency to move forward with adoption. This choice is yours to make.

Call us if you’re even considering putting your baby up for adoption and maybe you just have some questions. One of our counselors will sit down and listen. We have counselors that will meet with you in person. We’ll ask you to discuss your situation and share your honest thoughts about what you want for your baby.

We’ll never pressure you into choosing adoption and if you choose to raise your child, we will support you in any way we can. We just want you to know that Open Arms Adoption Network is here for you and your baby. Reach out to us and let’s discuss your options.

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You’ve made the difficult decision to give your baby up for adoption. You feel sure that it’s the right decision for you — and for your baby – but you still have fears, doubts and a lot of questions. Don’t worry, that’s normal.

Most of those fears and doubts are probably around figuring who would be the right family to love and raise your child. After all, your decision to put your baby up for adoption is based on your love for your baby. It’s not about you — it’s all about the baby. So, of course you have questions and doubts.

So, to help you: we’ve put together what we think are five of the most important tips to help you choose the best adoptive parents for your baby. Do these five things and you can feel confident that you’ve done your part to assure your baby’s future is healthy, happy and bright.

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1. Ask every question you wish to ask

This decision, after all, is yours. You have the right to be picky! Your adoption agency will give you the opportunity to read through many adoptive family profiles, if you desire. You can read all about different families’ education, lifestyles and home life. You can find out what families do for a living, their hobbies and special interests. You can even see photos of the adoptive couple and their pets, their other children, if they have any, and the environment your baby will call home.

It’s a lot to take in. We urge you to ask whatever questions come to mind when your adoption counselor talks with you. This is your opportunity to learn all that you want to learn to put your mind at ease about the different families that are available to adopt your baby.

And if you choose a family and want to meet them with your adoption counselor, you can ask even more questions when you are all together. Most important: You should feel no pressure from your adoption counselor in any way! This is your decision and you should move at your own pace. The adoptive family you feel interested in might share a lot of characteristics with you — or may be entirely different. You might feel an immediate connection to them or maybe you won’t? Talk about how you are feeling with your adoption counselor! Their role is to help you sort through all of your feelings and help you arrive at a decision you feel good about – even if it is not adoption.

Here’s the good news: you know that you and the people who want to adopt your child have at least one thing in common. You all love the baby, even if he/she is not born yet and you all want the best for the baby. That’s a very good start.

2. Know your deal breakers

Now ask yourself, what do you not want to see in adoptive parents? This is important, too. Have this conversation with yourself first. Make a list. Are there any traits or characteristics or life circumstances that you don’t want to make a part of your baby’s life? Once you’ve given this proper thought, talk to your adoption counselor about it. Share your concerns. If it’s important to you (and you think it’s important as it concerns your baby) it’s important to us. Let’s have that discussion and go from there.

3. Trust your heart

You instinctively know more about people than you might give yourself credit for. What does your heart and your mind tell you about the family whose adoption profile you feel connected to? Do you like what you’ve found in the profile given to you? Do the photos make you smile? Can you see your child in the arms of this family?

If you choose to meet the prospective adoptive parents with your adoption counselor, you’ll have even more to base your decision on. You should feel good about what you read and see and hear and feel. Trust your intuition. You’ve taken this research work seriously and have done your “homework”. Now let’s see if they can find a way into your heart. This choice is yours to make.

And, some women do not want to view profiles themselves and they ask the adoption agency to choose the right family for their baby. That is fine to you. The choices are yours to make.

4. Find an adoption agency that will inspire your confidence

It can be pretty intimidating if you feel that it’s your sole responsibility to find who will be the forever-family for your child. That can be a very lonely job. Don’t worry. You have Open Arms Adoption Network on your side. We work with our hopeful adoptive parents for months before we present their profile to women considering adoption for their babies. We talk with them in their homes on three or four different occasions, they attend our workshops, we run many clearances and reference checks on them to make certain they are safe and loving and ready to be parents. One of our most important roles is to make sure that every adoptive parent is ready and excited and prepared to be parents today.

But don’t just take my word for it. Call us! We want to earn your trust and answer all of your questions. This is likely the biggest decision of your life. You should feel supported, never pressured nor coerced. Only you know what is best for your baby. We will follow your lead.

When you’re working with Open Arms Adoption, you can trust that you’re not ever alone. We’re here to help you every step of the way. Reach out to us at and let’s discuss all of your options.

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