When it comes to the adoption process, the birth mother can play a critical role in making decisions for her unborn child. As the birth mother, you may decide that you want your baby to be adopted by a loving same sex couple. It is important to clarify your preferences by ensuring that you have a solid adoption plan in place and the right assistance from Open Arms Adoption Network.
Clarify Your Preferences
Many women who are planning on giving up their baby for adoption are hoping to find a LGBT family to adopt their baby. When you are hoping for a gay couple to adopt your child, you want to think about the characteristics in a family that are most appealing to you. Some things you may be thinking about are: How long has this couple been together? Do they have other children? Do they hope to adopt more children? Do they live in the city or suburbs? What is the family planning for childcare? Do they have lots of excited family members nearby? There are so many questions you will likely have and your Adoption Coordinator can help you through this process and support you as you make decisions. Some women know they want a gay or lesbian family to adopt their baby – but they do not want to be the one who reviews adoptive family profiles and who ultimately chooses the adoptive family. You do not need to be responsible to choose the family if you do not feel comfortable doing this.. Many women do not want to review adoptive families nor meet the family. If letting the agency choose the family for your baby is your preference- that is fine too and the agency will choose the very best family for your baby. These decisions are yours to make.
Work on an Adoption Plan
The adoption process begins with working out an adoption plan. You can work with Open Arms Adoption Network to develop a plan of action that works for you and your unborn baby or for your baby to whom who you have already given birth.
After the counseling and early planning, you will want to ensure that the adoptive family has medical information from you to keep your baby healthy through his or her life. You will want to provide information about your family’s medical history and the medical history of the baby’s father, if he is involved.. You will want to clarify the level of involvement that you want in your child’s life and you will do this with your Open Arms Adoption Coordinator. . If you want to visit with your child and his/her adoptive family over the years, this is most definitely available to you. Or, perhaps you just want pictures and letters over the years? Some women prefer to have a confidential adoption or to “step back” for a while. Whatever you choose, you will be supported. You should never feel pressured in any way to choose a particular kind of adoption or to move forward in adoption if you move in a different direction. . Can Same Sex Couples Adopt?
The key question that may arise when you are hoping to have an LGBTQ family adopt your child is whether gay or lesbian families are legally allowed to adopt. Thankfully, in all but just a few states, LGBT families are afforded the same rights as non-LGBT families to build their family through adoption.
How to Find an LGBT Family
The final step for developing an adoption plan and following through with your plan is finding the right LGBT couple for your baby. The idea of selecting the future parents of your child can seem daunting. You want to make the best decision to ensure that your child is in a healthy, loving and stable environment. Open Arms Adoption Agency recognizes that you are looking for the right couple for your child’s needs, and they help connect birth parents to many diverse adoptive families all eager, approved and ready to adopt through Open Arms.
If you choose to select a family from our many Adoptive family profiles, you will have the option to meet with them with your Adoption Coordinator. During these get-togethers, you can discuss the level of involvement you want with your child as well as any concerns you may have about your child’s connections with his/her siblings, extended family, his or her health, and family medical history. By having an open dialogue with potential adoptive parents, you can find the right gay couple to adopt your child.
Even if you have already given birth, it is not too late to find a wonderful gay couple or lesbian couple to adopt your baby. Open Arms Adoption Network makes it easy for you to find the right family for your baby. We will follow your lead and give you the level of support that feels right to you. Open Arms has many LGBT couples already approved and very ready to be parents today. We look forward to hearing from you.