You went back and forth about it over the nine months of your pregnancy. You changed your mind every few days — maybe every couple of hours — about whether you should give your baby up for adoption.
You felt overwhelmed by the weight of the decision until the point you gave birth, and then it was too late — or maybe that’s what you thought. Fortunately, that’s not true. You can still provide a loving, safe home for your child through a responsible adoption agency.
Adoption is Always an Option
Maybe you’re still pregnant or still in the hospital after recently given birth. Or maybe you’ve had your baby with you at home for the last few days or weeks and you still wonder if you made the right decision.
You love your baby with all your heart, but you can’t help wondering if you’re doing the right thing. Is it in your baby’s best interest to remain with you at this point in your life?
But what can you do about it now? You didn’t make contact with an adoption agency during your pregnancy, and now the decision seems like it’s out of your hands. Your baby is here. Or soon will be here.
The good news is that you can still put your baby in the loving arms of a family better prepared to raise your baby. We know that mothers sometimes have to make very difficult decisions to give their children the best chance at a happy life. Adoption might help you give your new baby what they need.
A Loving Responsibility: Choosing What’s Best for Your Baby
You can’t lose the feeling that you’re not prepared for a new baby at this time in your life. It’s not because you don’t love your baby- you do. It’s because your heart is filled with love and you know how important it is to do the right thing for your baby.
You want the best for your baby. So do many new mothers who give up their babies for adoption because they know in their hearts that it’s the right thing to do. It’s not a question of love. In fact, giving your baby up for adoption might be the strongest expression of your love that you can show your baby.
There are many reasons new mothers like you make the decision to put their baby up for adoption. Many are concerned about the challenges before them. They don’t know how they’ll feed and clothe and shelter their baby and growing child, take care of their medical needs, surround them with a lot of supportive family, and, later, provide a good education.
Many women must raise a child without the financial or emotional support of family, friends or the child’s father. Others know that having a baby at this point in their lives will mean they won’t be able to finish their own schooling or keep an existing job. They worry that these things will only make life more difficult for them and their child. Most women who put a baby up for adoption have other kids at home and have little help from their family or the father of the baby and they often say that they worry that bringing home another baby might just be too much for everyone.
Other mothers might simply feel that they are too young to take on all of the big responsibilities required for at least the next 18 years.
You probably have at least one or maybe several of these reasons to question your ability to care for a new baby right now. That’s why you’ll be glad to know that you still have options. There are wonderful people out there who are prepared to be parents and thrilled at the prospect of adopting your baby.
How Open Arms Can Help You With Your Baby
At Open Arms Adoption, we see the joy in the faces of adoptive parents every day as they take their new babies in their arms for the first time. For many of these parents, having a baby has been their dream for years. They are more than ready financially and emotionally to care for a child and would be pleased to have an open adoption with you or a confidential adoption, if that is what you prefer.
We carefully screen each and every person who wish to adopt a child. That’s how you can trust that your baby will be placed in a stable and loving home.
If you choose to give up your baby for adoption, it will be one of the most difficult decisions you’ll ever make. You should take your time to make this decision and you should never feel pressured by an adoption agency to move forward with adoption. This choice is yours to make.
Call us if you’re even considering putting your baby up for adoption and maybe you just have some questions. One of our counselors will sit down and listen. We have counselors that will meet with you in person. We’ll ask you to discuss your situation and share your honest thoughts about what you want for your baby.
We’ll never pressure you into choosing adoption and if you choose to raise your child, we will support you in any way we can. We just want you to know that Open Arms Adoption Network is here for you and your baby. Reach out to us and let’s discuss your options.